Is It Too Much To Ask ?

All through life we learn so many things. But one thing that most of us are still bad at is accepting ourselves as individuals.

Somehow, we are never taught the right way to channelise the ideas in our minds.

We are always taught to walk the path everyone else took.( even though we romanticise Frost's Road Less Travelled!) Because there is safety in crowds. And so slowly and steadily, the world turns us into sheeps. And that is not where it stops. Because we also learn to hate those who choose to differ from crowd.

In theory, it sounds stupid. Come on, how can somebody force you to do something you don't want to? Aren't we living in a world of 'free will' ?

But can you count all the times in your life when you shied away from taking a decision only because you were afraid of what everybody else might say.

It is very difficult to admit. But your actions are still largely determined by the society you live in.

This is absolutely something we all have heard previously. But i chose to write on it again because i saw kids my age changing themselves to fit in. Doing things they don't like, being with other kids they don't match thoughts with. 

And it's heartbreaking. Because this is taking away their individuality . All that really matters anymore is to stay COOL.

And nobody even knows what that means.

So choose to refuse to be defeated by people's idea of acceptable.

Live life on your own terms. That way, at least you would never have anybody else to blame.

Kya pataa fir yeh mauka ho na ho ?

Kitne time se kuchh ni likha na.... aisa lg rha hai jaise kitne dino se sanyaas liya hua tha maine ( to the ones who just laughed at it and said dt I say dis every single day, i wud say Shut up :D )

I have been hating this whole stage of writer's block! I have written more "incomplete blogs" in the past few weeks than probably the whole of my blogging life. But that is because now I have more and more expectations to live up to.  And that kinda makes things difficult.

But on the contrary, nobody expecting anything from you is worse! Imagine living a life where nobody tells you to do anything. It might sound tempting but since I have had some occasional experiences of the same, I would warn you away.

Coming back to the topic, this one is about approaching the end of school! Sounds like so easy right ?Finally you get to get away from this cage that your school is? No it really is not just about your school. ( All you juniors,  wait for the time when you will reach class 12! Its all about first-hand experience ;P )

Laughing about the memories of all the time I hated going to school (honestly! that was never.. I have never hated going to school. Yeah yeah.. I was a nice kid. xD ), its crazy how things come to an end without you even realising. And you have been through enough ends of friendships and relationships to have learned your lesson but you are always one step away from having learned how it feels.

And that is just why in these last few months that we have,  we should probably hope to clear our grudges with people, establish the friendships you have long wanted and clear the air with those you hate. Forgive like that is all you know, love like it is all you want and in the end, it will just be a little less painful to say your goodbyes!

Dont' let all these idiots you've known for 14 long years get away without a happy memory of you! Ditch the ones who make you doubt the love you deserve.

For once, let your logical mind stay in peace and let your heart do the talking.

Kya pataa fir yeh mauka ho na ho ? ♥

Letter to self

Dear Me,
I am sorry I haven't been looking after you enough lately. I am sorry I let you stay lost while trying to find others. I am sorry I don't love you as much as you deserve. I am sorry I let people hurt you so much, so bad. Most importantly, I am sorry I couldn't accept you the way you are.
Well, I have been trying to describe you. And I found out that all I know about you is the bad parts. All I want from people is to abandon you for all the bad I see. All I want from friends is to find out who you really are and leave you alone.
 But I haven't been successful as you must know. And thank God I didn't end up doing it.
And now I am back for you. I know what you need.  Or maybe I don't.  But then maybe that is the entire point of this life.
At least I know what I am not doing to you anymore. I am no more introducing you  with your flaws. I am no more looking for somebody to accept you for all the bad things. Or for that matter, I am not looking forward to you being accepted anymore. The only acceptance you need is from me and from this moment onwards, I promise you that I will try as hard as I can to not let you down. Again.
And now I will introduce you as the one who smiles... As the one who stares at flowing water like her life depends on it.. As the one people think of as naïve but you don't care.. As the one who is not afraid to fight for self.. And probably as the one who learned to love you. 🍁🍁

Let life happen to you. 💙

The only people worth being jealous of in life are the ones who have found their passions.
And here you are. Stuck. Trying out different things, hoping something would turn out to be the purpose of your life. But all you get is a new thing to add to the list of things 'You-tried-but-didnt-like-enough-to-call-passion'.
I guess the main reason you feel out of place is because you didnt find passion in most fields that passions are 'supposed' to be in. Be it theatre, speaking, business.. 
*The list must have been long but i can barely think of examples. Just how limited is our view of passion.*

I thought i was passionate about writing. But I am more self-depreciative towards what I write than I can put into words.. And I can also get through months without writing anything. Passion is not a game of lost-and-found. Is it ?
And i feel its worse than being stuck on the same thing; not knowing what exactly do you want outta your life. And hence the love of our generation for 'I-dont-know'.
Another reason why our generation is fighting too hard to find its passion is because 'The path to success is not hard work as much as passion.'
So basically, no passion is equal to no success. 
While its true in every sense. But not finding your passion doesn't make you a failure. Just because a few people around you found their passion doesn't mean that at 17, if you don't know what you love, you would never know.
Believe that this world is bigger than you know and yet smaller than you can possible imagine. 
So here I am telling you something, which might sound clichéd but its so important to remember that you often forget: 'Its alright to be lost. Best destinations are found when you have travelled too many roads leading to nowhere.'

Let life happen to you darling, let life happen. ❤️

Goodbye, 2016. Hullo, 2017.

The year went by in a jiffy.. Didn't it ? 

We made decisions, found new people, lost some old ones and now are looking forward for 2017.

So do u regret how the year went ? Or you are pretty much happy with how things enfolded ? 

While your answers might wary, there is one thing I am so sure we all did.. Consciously or unconsciously.  And that is Self pity. 

Sounds clichéd.. Like another one of those rants about self love ? Well no. This time lets keep it moderate. 

Well you cant always stay strong. Fuck. Because there is that stupid heart of yours who doesn't listen when you tell it not to get attached. So well something happens and you screw up. Big time. We all do. At some point or the other. No big deal. 

But it does become a big deal because you, my dear, choose the easier way out. Instead of taking a responsibility of whatever happened; you start seeking reasons and explanations so as to why you are not to blame. And while that is gratifying in short term.. In the long term it makes you addicted. Addicted to sympathy. And that is much like ruining your life with your own beautiful hands. 

I write about happiness but not now because this time its different. This time its the end of the year. The one time when you have to learn from whatever good and bad happened and let go of the grudges. So its important to learn the right things from 2016.

Would you take a resolution with me.. To not dwell in self- pity anymore and stand upto every good and bad decision you ever make ?

This one resolution that you promise, not to break. 

Because its your story.. and however much glorious or inglorious the event is, own up to it.. and stop looking for public approvals. You don't need people to tell you what you did was fine or not. You have to stop caring about how people perceive you before an event and after an event. 

Cause this is your life an you have to make it big.

Wish you a very very Happy New Year. ♥

Sadguru :')

He was magic ✨Every good thing that exists in this world is your ehsaas. Every good thought, your simran. Now that I see you all around me, why do my eyes still long to see you? Why do I have to remind my eyes that you're everywhere - in me, in him, in them - closer than ever, in this very breath, in this very thought that thinks of you and salutes you endless times. For you were 'love personified', from you love blossomed, and from love you. You were a miracle hazoor, and forgive this soul for thinking that you're gone, because you can never leave. You hid your real self from us all this while. You were, you are and you always will be. In every smile, in every tear, in every prayer, in every fear, in every breath I will find you near. Forever indebted ❤️

No One understands ME :/

I knw..... padhte hi lag rha hoga ki kitna strange title hai.. bt kya karein, aaj ke discussion ka mudda yahi hai..

Achha toh lemme know one thing. Have you used this sentence in your life lately  ??

Agar haan....toh keep on reading. Aaj ka blog sirf tumhare liye hai. Aur agar nahin toh fir bhi padhte raho. Maana ki tumhe ni chahiye but kya pataa tumhare kisi dost ke kaam aa jaye ( xD)

Now since, all of you are reading ahead anyway, then I think we should first know why do we feel this ki koi humein samajhta hi nhi hai. Here are a few conditions when we want to say this:

1. You don't want to study but mom-dad are pestering you because your exams are near.
2. You are heartbroken (yes! the kind of heartbroken I have been telling you to not to care about. New to my blog ?? Read my previous ones. You will know what I mean..)
3. You are going through that ideological turmoil about whether to think like a kid or a grown up.
4. Mann kr rha hai hard core romantic gaane sunne ka.. jb koi life mein hai hi ni.. tb bi.. ( personal favorite.. you see xD )

Ab tum kisi category mein fall kro ya na kro... aage toh pdhlo yr !! :P

Achha bahut bdiya... All my sympathies are with you (!) Ab agar tumhara- mera melodrama khatam ho gya ho toh kaam ki baat krein ??

I agree... hum abi ek aisi age mein hain jahan apne gharwale hi sbse bde dushamn aur dost hi "ek-maatr" ( for my oh-so- padhe likhe friends, it means "one and only" )sahaara lgte hain. Aur yahin hm galti kr jaate hain.

Sabse pehle, important yeh hai samajhna ki you are not the first person to go through this ( and worst, you have sympathized with yourself so many times on this one point. Oh scrap it off.. please !!)
I mean come one yaar, itna toh tum bi smjhte ho na ki nothing going right now is a big deal. To make you feel better, everyone goes through this turmoil.

Bus ab jab bi lge na ki koi nahi smjhta humein... jaake sheeshe ke saamen khade hoke saari bhadaas nikal dena. Chalo aur koi smjhe ya na smjhe... khud ko toh smjhoge na??!!

And Babaji ke liye yaar, stop thinking that you have to put up an armour on all your feelings, never let anyone know what you are feeling because they will use it against you. Nahin na.... you do need to open a little. Acknowledge your feelings. Else one day you'll explode like a volcano and then the damage would be irreparable.

For the rest. Keep smiling. To me, there is nothing more beautiful than that 100-watt smile one your face my dear reader. ^.^